SingleScenes – 9-24-25

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I am discreetly dating a woman who works with me and I really like her. But there is another woman at work I’ve always admired but never approached.  Recently, at an office party, she slipped me a note expressing her interest and her phone number.  I’m stumped as to what to do because this woman is exciting.  But I don’t want to hurt the feelings of the other woman though.  I’m excited about the note and its potential.  What should I do?  I certainly cannot date two women in the same office.  And if I go out with this woman, the other woman is sure to find out and I don’t want to destroy what we have.  I need your insight.

A.  I suggest since you’re single, that you pursue the avenue that appeals to you the most, but you’re at risk of being miserable if you don’t and scarred if you do. As you said, you cannot date two women working in the same environment.  Therefore, either you close one gate before you enter another, or stay where you are and just enjoy the view. Don’t let ego or curiosity dictate your moves, especially when you could suffer a loss.   Remember, everything that glitters is not always gold.  You may want to just take a pass.

Q.  Three weeks ago, I went on a second date with a handsome example of Mr. Right. We had a wonderful evening at a wonderful restaurant, where he stared into my eyes like he was experiencing love at first sight.  After dinner, he took me on a romantic carriage ride around the city and acted as if he were on a dream date.  However, when he brought me home, I declined his attempt to come in for a drink, because my place was in shambles.  He seemed disturbed by my response.  Since that time, I haven’t heard a word from him.  When I called him, he told me he would call me back, but he never did.  That was two weeks ago.  Do you think I should try to contact him again?  I think I may have offended him and I have a need to apologize.  What would you do?

A.   I wouldn’t call him again. If he was offended, he’s not worth pursuing.

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