SinglesScenes – 11-5-25

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I have been secretly in love with my best friend’s wife for years…ever since we were all students in college. But she chose him over me.  Now, five years later, they’re divorced, and she is suddenly interested in me as if she’s seeing me for the first time.  But I haven’t moved on it because I’m torn between my friendship with her ex-husband and my feelings for her.  I feel  I need to tell him before I get involved with her.  Also, I’ve never told her how I feel.  What do you think?

A.  I think It’s time to tell both of them the truth about how you feel and then follow your heart.  Go for it.  Fate may be giving you another chance.

Q.  I have a “friend,” whom I considered my best friend, call and tell me she saw my boyfriend out with another woman.  Of course, this was upsetting and ended up ruining my whole weekend.  Since that time, I learned my boyfriend was with his cousin, whom he was entertaining from out of town.  My boyfriend and I are now straight, but I have not been able to talk to my “friend.”  In analyzing my feelings, I realize that I resent her for what she did.  She claimed she only told me to keep me from getting hurt, but the only hurt I got was from her.  I want to end our friendship.  I believe she was jealous because she has no one and she wanted me to be alone too.  What do you say?

A.  I think you’re taking a pretty hard line. Maybe your friend used bad judgment, but she could have meant well. It all depends on how you felt about the relationship before this incident.  Was she a good friend or a bad friend?  But what I’m mostly curious about is why would you take your boyfriend’s word so readily.  Did you meet the cousin?

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