SingleScenes – 9-26-23

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I recently went out to dinner with a guy who turned out to be really cheap.  After we were seated, he informed me immediately that he would pay for the dinner and I should pay for the drinks.  I was so offended I couldn’t talk.  His comment succeeded in ruining the evening before it began.  It was our first date, and I had been very impressed prior to entering the restaurant.  He’s a handsome guy, with great credentials, but he’s an oddball.  However, though it’s clear he’s eccentric, I’m really attracted to him and struggling over whether or not I should go out with him again.  Should I just accept his cheapness as a small dark blot on an attractive “map?”  What do you think?  By the way, I refused to pay for the drinks and he complained about it all the way home.  My friends all recommend I get out now before it gets weirder. 

A.  I think if you continue to see him, you’re in for more of the same, and it could get worse.  Don’t let his “assets” mess up the picture.  To me, his statement said a lot about the not-so-high regard he holds for women.

Q.  At a party recently, I ran into the ex-boyfriend of my best friend, whom I was secretly attracted to.  She dumped him a couple of years ago, because “he was too nice.”  We got to talking and he asked me out.  We really had a great time, and the chemistry was kicking.  The problem is I feel guilty because she’s not seeing anyone right now, and I know she would feel hurt and betrayed.   He has asked me out again and I want to go.  Do you think I should ask her before I go out with him again?

A.  I would.

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