The World Of Lazy Lovers

The World Of

Lazy Lovers

by Lisa Laird

In these times, many things have changed.  Old ways have slowly evolved into new and contemporary ones.  But one tradition still remains semi-unscratched by social evolution. Most women are still resigned to allow the guy to “notice” them or make the first move. However, I’m not one of them. 

Once, I saw a guy in the supermarket, who took my breath away because he was so fine.  I was in real estate and I quickly came up with a way to introduce myself.  I walked up to him, handed him my business card, and told him that he looked like the type of guy who could use a mansion, and I had some for sale.  He laughed and we began a conversation that lasted over an hour in the cereal aisle. 

He called two days later, and we began an affair that was short-lived but fun.  He was a player, but the few trips I took on his “merry-go-round” were memorable.  To this day, I’m glad I took the initiative and experienced the encounter because he could have been my future husband. 

When the average woman sees a guy who appeals to her first, she is most likely to become numb with fear of rejection.  Instead of reaching deep for a charming wit, (which every woman has the capacity for), she usually becomes flustered, shy, and bewildered.  The risk of being rejected, for many, is too high a price to pay in the pursuit of potential happiness. 

When a woman sees a guy who could possibly interest her, she should set her mind to making it happen between them, if possible.  I know for a fact that creative thinking can be the key to romantic success.

“Lazy Lovers” are people who settle for lackluster romance and have never really experienced the excitement of real love because they lack the energy or stamina to keep looking until they find it.  What we enjoy helps define who we are.  Common pleasures are essential to any healthy relationship.  When the fun stops, regardless of the commitment, the relationship is usually over, whether there’s an actual severance of ties or not. 

Unfortunately, many people continue to hang on for dear life in affairs when the flame has petered out.  And often, for reasons they couldn’t possibly explain in intelligible language.  Good times should be the motivating factor in keeping someone’s company.  However, today many people exist in relationships where the joy has disappeared and the fun has rolled over and died.