SingleScenes – 10-11-23

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I am dating a married man, who is currently separated from his wife.  We are in love, and planning to get married when he gets a divorce.  However, we have a problem.  His sister is getting married, and I want to go to the wedding, but he doesn’t want to take me because his wife is going to be there.  He thinks it would be disrespectful to her and his family, and I think it’s unfair to me because we’re a couple.  He thinks I’m being selfish.  What do you think?

A.  I agree with him.  Ever heard of discretion?  Here is where it would come into play. You’re displaying a very selfish and immature attitude.  I also think you need to cool out and let this event pass you by.  Your presence there could hardly be considered a class act.  I think you need to think about what you’re out to prove.

Q. I am dating my ex-wife’s girlfriend, and have been for the last eight months.  I have been divorced for three years without any pressure in my life, and now it’s back.  My ex-wife’s sister is getting married in a few weeks and my girlfriend insists on attending with me in tow.  My ex-wife knows about us and resents the relationship. But I don’t want to go, because I don’t want to flaunt our relationship in my ex-wife’s face,  However, at this point, I’ve been given an ultimatum…either I go or she’s gone.  She thinks I still care for my ex-wife and she feels my appearance at this event will either solidify her suspicions or disperse them. What do you think?

A.  I think you should do what you want to do based on what’s important to you. Your wishes, your feelings, or your girlfriend’s paranoia. Do you care enough about her to compromise your comfort level? Then do it!  If not…don’t!

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