The Singles Scene – 10- 17-23

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q. At a party recently, I ran into the ex-boyfriend of my best friend, whom I was secretly attracted to.  She dumped him a couple of years ago, because “he was too nice.”  We got to talking and he asked me out.  We really had a great time, and the chemistry was kicking.  The problem is I feel guilty because she’s not seeing anyone right now, and I know she would feel betrayed and it could affect our relationship. He has asked me out again and I’m going.  Do you think I should tell her about us?

A. No. There may be nothing to tell just yet. The hookup may turn out to be nothing.  I would only tell her if it became serious.

Q. Two weeks ago, I had drinks after work with an attractive co-worker.  Though I realized during the course of the evening, that she didn’t appeal to me, before the night was over, I drank too much and ended up at her apartment.  However, before anything happened, I got up in the midst of the heat and left abruptly.  The next day, she demanded to know why I left the way I did.  When I told her she just wasn’t my type, she blew up and became an enemy, whose fury is affecting our work together.  All my buddies say I messed up because I was too honest.  They say I should have told her I already had a girlfriend, and that women accept this as a better excuse for rejection.  How can I fix this?

A. Try apologizing to her and use the words, “I’m sorry.”

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