12 Principles Popular People Practice

12 Principles

Popular People

Practice

by Bonita Bennett

You are revered or avoided by what comes out of your mouth.  Therefore, choose what you say carefully.  Make sure your words are quality, sensitive, intelligent, tasteful, respectful, noble, and honorable…and your words are manifested or realized in your deeds.

2.      No one should ever judge, criticize or condemn in spoken terms.  You never know who’s listening and your words could come back to haunt you.  What you think is a private matter.

3.      Never chastise someone else’s child without permission.

4.      Never sacrifice your comfort level to satisfy someone else’s curiosity or desire. 

5.      Never agree to go anywhere, or do anything you really don’t want to do.  Express your true feelings.  Never dance or move to the tune of someone whose music you know you shouldn’t be listening to.

6.      Never assume anything and let it consume your thoughts…or influence your actions.  Hold out for the facts before reaching a conclusion on any matter. 

7.      Never mention your accomplishments, achievements, or honors, unless you’re filling out an application or doing a resume.  Humility is very attractive.  Let others discover how great you are from a source other than you. 

8.      Never spend time, energy, or money with someone who does not make you feel special. 

9.      Never pretend to be where you are not on the social ladder.  If you are on a high rung, don’t mention it.  Success and social standing speak for themselves without the use of a microphone.

10.    If you need to say no … say it graciously.  If said appropriately, a no can sound like a  sincere regret with future possibilities.

11.    Past, personal, and romantic history should only be revealed when this information is deemed pertinent by the “confessing” party.  Private secure brain data should be reserved for worthy ears only. 

12.    It is always important to look good and smell good.  But all of this is a blur if your manners and actions are not in sync with the rest of the picture.  Example:  An expensive suit does not go well with a filthy mouth or an unclean body odor.