SingleScenes – 2-13-24

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  My boyfriend and I had the biggest falling out at a party recently because he left my side to dance with an ex-girlfriend who used to stalk and harass me over him.  I was so angry that I left the party. and have not seen him since.  He has been calling to say that I overreacted and that I was being childish.  I think what he did was rude and disrespectful, and I never want to see him again.  My friends all agree with him.  What do you think?

A.  I think you’re right.  His actions were rude and disrespectful, and if I were in your shoes, I would never go near him again.

Q.  I am engaged to a woman I met five months ago and I have a serious problem. When we met the romance was fast, head-spinning, and unlike anything, I’ve ever experienced.  I thought I had finally found the right woman.  But things begin to turn for the worse when different quirks begin to show in her personality.  She calls me at odd hours of the night to see if I’m home.  One night, she was sitting on my doorstep when I got in late from work, with a gun in her purse.  My dilemma is that I am ready to call off the relationship and I think she might turn violent.  The other night she screamed obscenities at me when I put her on hold for another call.  I know I can’t hide from a person who may be disturbed.  What do you say?

A.  You’re right.  If you fear bodily harm, I would suggest two things.  One, if you believe in God, believe He will protect you. Tell her, with all the kindness you can muster, that you no longer feel that the two of you are compatible. Then trust God to protect you, and go to the police station and get an order of protection.  I would also do all I can to protect myself.

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