by Sarah Smart
Q. I’m perplexed. At my birthday party recently, my best friend’s boyfriend gave me a birthday card with two hundred dollars cash inside with a note asking me to call him because he needed to talk to me. I want to return the money because I think the gift was too extravagant and I feel his motive is suspect. My friend doesn’t know about the gift. I don’t wish to offend him by giving the money back. What would you do? I believe he’s interested in me on the sly because of the way he stares at me.
A. If I was suspicious as you are, I would call him to see what he wanted, and be prepared to set him straight if I have to. I would also return the money, because it did not come from both of them. i would view his gift as inappropriate.
Q. I accidentally overheard my best friend telling another one of her girlfriends about how dumb I was in relationships, and how I gave my boyfriend a birthday gift after he hadn’t given me one. I had confided in her, and I was very hurt by her betrayal. The problem is that I’m scheduled to be a bridesmaid for her in October, and I’m no longer interested in her friendship or being in her wedding. But I feel guilty about leaving her high and dry. What would you do?
A. I hardly see her having one less bridesmaid as leaving her high and dry. I agree with your decision. Why should you feel guilty about disappointing someone who betrayed your friendship. Tell her and be free
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