The Singles Scene – 3-16-22

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q:  I got a phone call from a ex-boyfriend last week, who stated he had begun dating my best friend and he wanted me to hear it from him.  We stopped dating two years ago and prior to the phone call, he was the farthest thing from my mind, but I was upset after I talked to him.  Though I pretended not to care, my head was pounding with anger.  When I got off the phone, I called my friend to express my resentment.  She thought I was crazy, because she’s not dating anyone else and I am.  I cannot stand the thought of her becoming involved with a guy I had told her everything about.  What do you say?

A:   I say your ego is blocking your good judgment.  If things are over between you and your ex., why should you care what he does?  His phone call to you was admirable.  Most men would not have bothered. Examine the facts and your true feelings.  You can’t stop your friend from doing what she wants or betraying your confidence.  You can’t worry about what you can’t change.  Be mature and face the music because that tune will play with or without your permission.

Q:   I am currently engaged with a man who has sole custody of his two sons (ages 8 and 10) and they are the most misbehaved kids in the universe.  They call me names and spit at me when I ask them to do something.  However, when their dad walks into the room, they become little angels.  I am stressed out over this situation, because I love the man but I can’t stand his kids.  I’m afraid to tell him how they treat me because he is so protective of them.  I know that  he is hoping that I can be a mother to his kids, but I’m not interested.  I am perplexed as to what to do?

A:   You are going to have to tell him the real deal.  Then try to use your feminine skills to charm and seduce those two little monsters into liking you.  Remember, despite how they act, perhaps they can be managed through your creativity and imagination.  They are children and you are the adult.  Put your heart to the task and see what happens. And if that doesn’t work, you may have to abandon ship for peace of mind.

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