After a wonderful evening, I declined my date’s attempt to be invited in and I haven’t heard from him since.
by Sarah Smart
February 27, 2018
Q. I just had the weirdest experience. I went on a second date with a prototype of Mr. Right who showed up with flowers and my favorite candy. We had a wonderful evening at an expensive restaurant, where he stared into my eyes like he was experiencing love at first sight. After dinner, he took me on a romantic carriage ride around the city. When he brought me home, I declined his attempt to come in for a drink, because my place was in shambles. He seemed disturbed by my response. That was three weeks ago. Since that time, I haven’t heard a word from him. When I called him, he told me he would call me back, and never did. Do you think I should try to contact him again? I think I may have offended him.
A. Keep your hands off the phone. Remember, you don’t know him that well, and he could be a kook. Or, it could be that he was out for sex, and perturbed that it didn’t happen. It seems he really went all out for the date with the candy and flowers thing, and maybe you appeared to be a little ungrateful. Either way, cool out, and wait. If it’s supposed to be…it’ll happen without any work on your part. You might want to send him a note apologizing if you did offend with the refusal to let him in.
Q. I no longer wish to marry a guy who has given me a car and a two carat engagement ring. After many sleepless nights, I’ve changed my mind. But I hesitate to tell him, because I don’t want to return either of the gifts. My mother says I’m only obligated to return the car. What do you say?
A. I say…return both items, if you wish to reflect an ounce of class or training. How could you keep the car and such an expensive ring, when the man obviously purchased it believing that you were the one, and sleep well at night? What are you thinking? Wouldn’t you want your stuff back? It’s the right thing to do.
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