I discovered accidentally that my best friend’s new boyfriend is a con man who is secretly engaged to another woman. How can I let her know?
by Sarah Smart
March 20, 2018
Q. What would you do if you found out that your best friend’s new boyfriend was engaged to one of your co-workers and you were through coincidence, invited to the engagement party? Would you tell her? My friend is so excited and thrilled over this guy, who has been suspect to me from the beginning. My friend is 35, never married and obsessed with the ticking of her biological clock. Therefore, she is very vulnerable to guys with game. I’m afraid to tell her because she is very paranoid and is always accusing others of being jealous of her. What would you do?
A. I would take her to the engagement party and let him tell her, when the engaged couple make their announcement
Q. I recently met a white guy over the Internet whom I’ve grown very fond of. He stated upfront that he prefers to date black women and I was impressed that his lifestyle had been so cultivated. I’ve not been exposed to this kind of relationship before, though I think I could deal with it. Though, I’m falling in love with this guy, I don’t want to send signals that black men are not important to me. It’s just that I haven’t met one who comes close to having the same ideals, goals and religious beliefs that this man and I have shared so far. What do you think?
A. I think you should go for it and not worry about what others might say. Your concern should be about how God feels, not people. You cannot live your life to coincide with the opinions of others. Interracial dating does put you in a semi-spotlight and only you can make the decision as to whether you can stand the “attention.” However, I’m always concerned when I hear of men or women of another race and their preference for someone of a particular race. I see it as something to be wary of. I would tread down “lovers lane” with cautious steps.
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