The Singles Scene – 7-29-21

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I feel like an idiot.  At a book club meeting recently, I decided to be bold and invited this very attractive guy to join me for coffee after the meeting. I’d been admiring him for awhile, and I thought I’d take a chance.  Well, it turned out that he didn’t have a car, and I offered him a ride.  However, to my dismay, when we got outside, he asked if his “girlfriend” (who was also in the meeting looking unattached) could join us. I was floored.  I couldn’t understand how I missed the link between them, but I nodded a reluctant yes.  Hence, the both of them ended up in the back seat of my car kissing all the way to the café.  When we got there, I did have the wherewithal to feign a sudden headache, and dropped them off.  But, I was so angry with myself for letting it go that far.  My problem is that I didn’t know how to get out of it once I realized my mistake, and this kind of thing happens to me often.  What would you have done?

A.  Once I saw the girlfriend, I would have gotten the headache then. I think you responded the way you did because you were embarrassed by your intent and thrown off by the “surprise intruder.”  But don’t let it bring you down.  Most women would have responded the same way you did out of embarrassment.  Move on and forget it…for there are more mistakes to come.  It’s called life.

Q.  Two weeks ago, my fiancé told me he was going out of town on business and he would be gone a week. Two nights later, I spotted him coming out of a restaurant on another side of town, with his arms wrapped around another woman and they were kissing.  He didn’t see me and I didn’t confront him.  I haven’t told anyone else about it.  I love him and don’t want to do anything to spoil our wedding plans, because I have spent a lot of money on this wedding.  I haven’t slept since the incident.  What’s your advice?

A.  Run and forget about the money!  Chalk it up to a loss.  Call off the wedding, unless you don’t mind being married to a big liar and a cheat. If you’re not sleeping now, wait ‘til you marry him.

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