I was overheard making an ugly remark about my friend and her husband at her wedding and now she won’t talk to me.
by Sarah Smart
September 1, 2018
Q. At a friend’s recent wedding, I made a crude remark about her (out of jealousy I admit) and her husband that was too ugly to repeat. Unfortunately, her cousin overheard it and told her. When she confronted me with it, I lied at first and then apologized profusely. I also begged for forgiveness. I even confessed my bout with jealousy because she got married before I did, but she refuses to talk to me, and has slammed the door in my face on more than one occasion. Should I just leave it alone? I feel rotten, because she was such a good friend.
A. I think you should. You messed up, and you have to forgive yourself and move on. Apparently, whatever you said caused some serious hurt. I would give her a chance to heal, and maybe put my apology in writing and hope for a positive response.
Q. I bought my boyfriend of four months a very expensive watch for a birthday gift. However, when my birthday rolled around a month later, he didn’t even give me a card. I was so hurt because he didn’t attempt to do anything special for me on my day. Instead, he went out “with the boys.” When I complained about his behavior, he stated that I was over-reacting by being upset. I really like him, but I don’t like what he did. I’m thinking about ending this. What would you do?
A. I would end it and find someone who felt the same way I did about expressing love and affectionate behavior. What he really said was, “we feel don’t feel the same about the importance of birthdays and gift giving.”
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