The Singles Scene – 12-9-21

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q.  At a friend’s recent wedding, I made a crude remark about her (out of jealousy I admit) and her husband that was too ugly to repeat.  Unfortunately, her cousin overheard it and told her.  When she confronted me with it, I lied at first and then apologized profusely.  I also begged for forgiveness.  I even confessed my bout with jealousy because she got married before I did, but she refuses to talk to me, and has slammed the door in my face on more than one occasion.  Should I just leave it alone?  I feel rotten, because she was such a good friend.

A.  I think you should.  You messed up, and you have to forgive yourself and move on.  Apparently, whatever you said caused some serious hurt.  I would give her a chance to heal, and maybe put my apology in writing and hope for a positive response.

Q.  I bought my boyfriend of four months a very expensive watch for a birthday gift. However, when my birthday rolled around a month later, he didn’t even give me a card. I was so hurt because he didn’t attempt to do anything special for me on my day.  Instead, he went out “with the boys.” When I complained about his behavior, he stated that I was over-reacting by being upset.  I really like him, but I don’t like what he did.  I’m thinking about ending this.  What would you do?

A.    I would end it and find someone who felt the same way I did about expressing love and affectionate behavior.  What he really said was, “we don’t feel the same about the importance of birthdays and gift giving.”

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