SingleScenes – 2-3-20

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.    Last month, I got drunk at a party, where I ran into my best friend’s gorgeous husband and before the night was out, I ended up sleeping with him. (She was out of town)   The next day, I felt so guilty about the betrayal and needed to confess it to someone.  I called a mutual friend, who I figured could keep my secret and wouldn’t judge me.  I segued into the conversation by asking if she had ever been attracted to a friend’s boyfriend or husband or fantasized about an encounter.  Suddenly, she broke into tears and before I could make my confession, she confessed she had slept with our friend’s husband as well.  I was shocked!  I ended up not saying anything, feeling even worse and very stupid.  I was certain that he had slipped up with me and got caught up in the moment when he gave me a lift home.  Ironically, my best friend somehow found out about the other friend’s tryst with her husband.   Later, when she cried on my shoulder I felt so guilty, as I make all the “shocked” sounds a friend is supposed to make.  I have not been able to sleep since.  Should I confess to my friend so I can find some peace?

A.    I think this is one secret that is best not told.  You should just vacate the relationship and come up with an excuse about some mysterious personal issues that you can’t talk about…then ride off into the sunset.   It’s obvious your friend is in enough pain. 

Q.    I met the “perfect guy” when I took a Caribbean cruise alone recently.  He was also alone and claimed to be sailing to overcome some unspoken tragedy in his life.  I was alone because I’d had a rough ending to a long-term relationship, and I needed to heal on the deck of a ship.  He was single, charming, handsome, and easy to be with.  We had a glorious week together, and I felt like Fate was giving me a second chance at a real romance.  We spoke of love and sealed it with sex.  However, just before we docked in Miami, he suddenly disappeared on the ship.  I couldn’t find him anywhere until I saw him leaving the ship, way ahead of me in formation, and being hugged by a woman ashore.  Later, I discovered she was his wife.  I wish to contact the wife and let her know of his deceit.  My friends say no…to just forget it happened. What do you say?

A.    I agree with your friends. What’s the point!  It would be your word against his.  I say, chalk it up to a bad experience and move on.  Seek the lesson instead.

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