Hello New Boyfriend…Goodbye Best Friend

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Hello New Boyfriend…

Goodbye Best Friend

by Dani Phillips

June 30, 2018

Getting excited about a new relationship is natural. You’re excited to learn more about your partner and teach them more about you. If it’s been awhile since your last relationship or in the case of your first serious relationship, it is normal to want to spend every waking minute with your new partner.

I have time and time again watched my friends get into relationships and come to prioritize their newfound boyfriends above all else. While a part of me understands their actions, another part misses sitting on the couch with them on Friday nights eating popcorn and watching episodes of The Office. Not to mention, it gets a little old hearing about all the cute and amazing stuff their boyfriend, who in the beginning can do no wrong, has done for them. Some stop going out on the weekends because they’re content staying in now that they aren’t interested in pursuing guys. What they seem to forget is that meeting someone is not the reason for going out. They can get dressed up to have a ridiculous night with friends, which will yield long lasting memories and inside jokes.

Some women feel as if they need to make their significant other the center of their world or else they will lose them. In this case, the girl might need to reassess the quality of her relationship. Typically, as time goes by and the relationship matures, the girl will learn to appropriately divide her time between her friends and the person whom she is dating. Unfortunately, by the time she is ready to do so, it may already be too late.

Girls in relationships might isolate themselves so much that their friends come to feel like a second choice and no longer feel compelled to put effort into the friendship. After all, why would you want to be someone’s friend if they have made no effort to be there for you and have been so wrapped up in their own love life that they have forgotten to ask what is going on in your own.

This is why it is imperative that girls learn to manage their time between their boyfriends and their best friends. While any good friend will understand if you are around less once you start seeing someone, it is important you still make time for one another. Relationships don’t always last, and it is your friends who are going to be there for you if everything falls to pieces. Your friends are the ones who will build you back up and assure you that everything will be okay because you can do so much better. They’ll buy you a pint of ice cream or force you to go out and meet someone knew. They’ll know what you need because your friends always do. Don’t push away the people who have been there for you long before this new person even showed up in your life. Who will you complain to about all the annoying things your partner does if you push everyone else away?