Single Scenarios – Lessons

Single Scenarios

Lessons …

• Charla, 33:  When I’ve met guys in the past whose dating moves were too slow, I would take charge to urge the relationship along at my pace.  But the results always ended in disappointment and abandonment. I learned the hard way that any woman who appears to be a “love-eager,” is setting herself up to be rejected. If a guy moves slowly in a relationship, a woman should move slower.”
  
• Don, 27:  “A person either likes you or they don’t.  I have purchased gifts for women in high volume in desperate times to help sway feelings my way that weren’t there in the first place. It finally hit home, when a woman told me on her doorstep after an expensive evening out, that we could only be friends, because “you try too hard to be liked, and I want a guy who is certain of his likeability.”
  
  
• Daria, 30:  “I stopped accepting unacceptable behavior from the opposite sex and now express my true self.   I speak up where I didn’t before.  Show my disagreement when I should…say no when I want to, and yes by mood only and my romantic life is much better.”
  
  
• Selyna. 29:  “Last year, my “guy” of three years, broke up with me to be with someone else, after promising that we would marry.  I spent many sleepless nights trying to figure out what this woman had that I didn’t, or what she gave him that I couldn’t.  And just when I thought I had figured it out (she was taller, shapelier, and more polished) he left her for someone who was shorter, bald, thinner, and with far less polish. So, I stopped trying to figure it out.”

• Mark, 36:  “I went with a woman on a third date to a lavish party at her boss’s home.  When we got out of the car, she told me not to mention that I hadn’t attended college. She also told me to only order wine, because she didn’t want her co-workers to think I was a heavy drinker.  Later, when she became engaged in conversation on the other side of the room, I left.  (We had come in her car because she drives a Jag, and she didn’t think my Camry would make a good impression).  It was freezing outside as I waited in a cab, but it was worth it to get rid of her.  I should have left her when she asked to switch cars.”

• Chuck, 34:  “So much for the truth.  After chasing a beautiful woman for months, we finally went out.  After the date, I realized that she wasn’t my style, so I didn’t call again.  When she called me, I didn’t answer her calls.  Finally one night, I ran into her at a party and she pestered me to tell her why I never called again.  When I told her that was just no chemistry between us, she cursed me loudly and called me a jerk with no taste.”