SingleScenes – 1-30-20

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q. I met a woman online who lived in another state, and we began a long-distance relationship with talks of marriage.  After seeing each other for eight months, I decided to allow her to come to move in with me.  She quit her job and moved here and it’s been hell ever since.  She can’t find a job and now that we’re living together, I can’t stand her.  She’s a slob, and I’m no longer interested.  But she refuses to leave even after I’ve threatened her. What can I do?

A. Try to get a family member or friend to talk to her. Rejection can be hard to take, and you’re in a precarious position.  However, if the intervention doesn’t work, you should seek help from your local police department. You could also change your locks.

Q. I had been corresponding with this guy online for three months before we finally decided to meet.  We agreed to meet at a restaurant downtown and he told me what he would be wearing.  But when I arrived at the restaurant and saw him before he spotted me, I ducked out.  I did so because I was thoroughly disappointed with how he looked.  He looked nothing like his photo, and he was at least two feet shorter than he said.  Now he’s calling asking what happened to me, and I don’t have the guts to tell him that I saw him and I’m no longer interested.  What can I do?

A. Lie.  The truth would only hurt at this point.  Come up with a good excuse that would be acceptable to you if you were in his shoes … like the return of a former lover who recaptured your heart and you didn’t know how to tell him.

Got a problem or a confession?  We’ve got the answer.  Send us your scenarios regarding The Single Life to beingsinglemagazine@gmail.com and put SingleScenes in the subject line.