SingleScenes – 7-29-25

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q. Recently, I made the mistake of sleeping with an ex-girlfriend who I know still cares about me on a night when I was bored, and on the outs with my girlfriend.  I have absolutely no feelings for this woman, but I called (admittedly) because I knew she would be receptive. I didn’t mean to create any false hope and I know what I did was misleading.  But now I can’t get rid of her.  And I don’t know how to tell her, it was just a fling, to help me sort out my feelings for another woman. What can I do?  Right now, I’m not answering her calls.

A.   You can start by doing a man-up, answering the phone, and confessing the truth.  Be sure to inject that you reached out to her, because of her compassion, and things got out of control.  Tell her you didn’t mean to hurt her, and that you regret what happened.  Your guilt is obvious.  Just be sure to express it to her and ask for forgiveness.  Then get somewhere and cool out until you straighten your head out.

Q.   I was involved heavily with a guy for three months and then all of a sudden, he stepped away from me, without one word of explanation.  After a week, I called him and asked what happened.  He said only that he thought I should see other people because he wanted to see others and that we should move on with our lives.  I am so hurt and immobilized by his actions and comments that I cannot function.  I can’t eat or sleep, because I don’t know what happened…what’s wrong with me…or why he suddenly doesn’t want me anymore. He won’t talk to me and refuses my calls.  What can I do?

A.  You can give him up emotionally and stop worrying about what happened.  The reason why may be an answer you’ll never get.  Stop beating yourself up because he no longer wants you.  Our self-esteem always takes a dive, whenever a relationship ends before we’re ready.  But it doesn’t always mean that there’s something wrong with you.  You may want to seek counseling regarding this matter because the real answer lies within you and how you feel about yourself. Remember you are not defined by one man’s actions. Stay up!

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