SingleScenes – 9-2-25

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  My best friend’s ex-husband is everything I could want in a man and we’ve been dating for the last eight months, They’ve been divorced three years.. I have kept our romance a secret from her, because I know she would hate me, but the guilt is eating me alive.  Last week, she confessed to me that she still loved him, which made me feel even worse. Her ex-husband could care less about her knowing.  My sisters think I should tell her and end the friendship.  What do you think?   We’ve been friends since high school and I love her dearly.

A.  I say tell her.  The truth hurts.  But it’s always better than a lie.  If you don’t tell her and she finds out, she’ll be just as hurt.  Either way, she cannot escape the pain.  Since it’s obvious that you care about the relationship, be honest and express the guilt and torment you feel.  There is always a chance that through her pain, she’ll be able to forgive you.  Also, I would look a little closer at the ex-husband.  His attitude concerning this matter could possibly qualify him as a heel-to-be.

Q.  I am engaged to a woman I met five months ago and I have a serious problem. When we met the romance was fast, head-spinning and unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.   I thought I had finally found the right one, but things turned for the worse when different quirks began to show in her personality. She calls me at odd hours of the night to see if I’m home.  One night, she was sitting on my doorstep when I got in late from work, with a gun in her purse and threatened to shoot me if I was seeing someone else. My dilemma is that I am ready to call off the engagement and I think she may turn violent.  The other night she screamed obscenities at me when I put her on hold for another call.  I know I can’t hide from a person who may be disturbed.  What would you do?

A.  I agree…you cannot hide from a disturbed person.  I would relocate to another city.

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