SingleScenes
by Sarah Smart
Q. I am dating a guy, who is not very expressive about his feelings. He’s a nice guy, but he’s aloof emotionally. We have been together for over a year. I’m in love with him, but I didn’t think the feeling was mutual. So, I decided to ask him point-blank to describe his feelings for me. He told me that he likes me very much, but that he’s not in love with me. I was very hurt by his response, but I appreciated his honesty. Now, I don’t know what to do. I want to continue in the relationship, but it’s no longer comfortable for either of us. My friends think I should move on because our feelings aren’t mutual. But I really enjoy being with him and I would hate to lose what we do have. What would you do?
A. I agree with your friends. I would move on in search of someone who could return my feelings. As you stated, it’s no longer comfortable for the two of you in the relationship, and I’m sure your self-esteem has taken a huge blow. Self-respect should take over the reins here before your feelings run into more disappointment. To continue in the relationship would subject you to the misery of wondering who he’s loving when he’s not with you.
Q. My ex-husband is dating my co-worker and I hate going to work and encountering her. He left me for another woman, whom he has since broken up with and now he’s dating her. I found out about them accidentally and I’ve been upset ever since. I can’t stand knowing who he’s with. I’m thinking about quitting my job. What do you think? She doesn’t know I know.
A. I wouldn’t quit the job until I found a new one, and by that time, with his track record, he may be able on to someone new whom you won’t have to interact with and you can stay put. Meanwhile, you need to work really hard to get his rejection of you for your own peace of mind.
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