SingleScenes – 5-26-24

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I am engaged to a wonderful guy, but I’m having second thoughts about marrying him because I feel overshadowed by his ex-wife.  For one thing, he is always comparing me to her, by what I wear, how I talk, and how I act.  On more than one occasion, he has called me by her name.  Deep down in my gut, I believe he still loves his ex-wife because he told me they divorced because she refused to work.  However, I overheard his sister say that she left him for another guy.  What would you do in my shoes?

A.  I wouldn’t marry him, or any man that I believed in my gut loved another woman.  I think you should follow your intuition and move out of the relationship.  Also, you need to consider deeply if you want to take the chance of being compared to another woman for the rest of your life.  I would guess probably not.

Q.  I am dating a married man, who is currently separated from his wife.  We are in love, and planning to get married when he gets a divorce.  However, we have a problem.  His sister is getting married, and I want to go to the wedding, but he doesn’t want to take me because his wife is going to be there.  He thinks it would be disrespectful to her and his family, and I think it’s unfair to me because we’re a couple.  What do you think?

A.  Ever heard of discretion or the classy thing to do?  Here is where they would come into play. I think you’re displaying a very selfish and immature attitude.  I also think you need to cool out and let this event pass you by.  Your presence there could hardly be considered a class act.  Be assured, If he’s sincere about you, he’ll come back to you after the wedding.

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