You And Your Choices – Just How Ridiculous Are You?

You And Your Choices: Just How Ridiculous Are You?

by Jovan Tahale

I knew my friends meant well.  But they had messed up again.  There he stood.  A guy, who had been invited to the gathering just to meet me…but he didn’t fit the bill and I couldn’t fake it.  I could tell from across the room that he didn’t have the swag I was looking for and I couldn’t accept less.  My friends say I’m inflexible and I agree.  I also know that those who are flexible in establishing who they’re willing to go out with have more options than people who aren’t.  I am now a convert.

After coming to this realization, I am now a strong proponent of flexibility in dating after a year of not having one date. I’m not talking about lowering your standards or “settling” for someone with whom you have no genuine interest.  Flexibility is taking a closer open look at yourself, as well as other people, and learning what truly matters to you.

After all, wouldn’t you be offended if you overheard someone you were attracted to say you weren’t his/her type?  You’d probably think he/she was shallow for sizing you up too quickly or stereotyping you.  And you’d be right. I used to do it all the time.

An attitude of flexibility occurs when you begin to develop a new, more open attitude toward the people you meet.  This allows you to give up daydreaming and take a realistic look at who is actually walking through the door.

This doesn’t mean you’ll end up dating all the people who return your smile, but you might just surprise yourself when you see how your base of interesting prospective dates begins to grow.  I ought to know.  I just had a third date with a guy who totally represents my newly acquired flexibility because he’s not as tall as I like.