SingleScenes

I just found out that the guy I’ve been dating lied about being a married man.

by Sarah Smart

February 3, 2018

Q.  I am dating a guy who told me initially that he was living with his sister. After I fell in love with him, I found out he was married.  He treats me well, but I know it’s wrong.  However, I don’t know how to get out, because I’m afraid I can’t live without him.  He treats me better than any man I’ve ever known.  How do I end this?

A.  Believe me, you can live without him. It’s called mind over matter.  Pray and ask God to give you the strength to let go.  What good is it to love someone who lies and cheats?  Step away and wait for a true love to come into your life.

Q. A close friend has been dating a guy for about six months that I am extremely attracted to and it’s driving me crazy. I met him last month for the first time and it was instant fire between us.  Our eyes lingered on each other the entire evening like a magnet. The next day I ran into him at the bank and he invited me for coffee and I went.  I went out with him accompanied by all the guilt feelings in the world, because I truly love my friend.  But this man is truly something and I don’t know what to do.  He’s asked to see me again and I find him irresistible.  My friend really thinks she’s in love and I cannot continue to listen to her talk of him and date him on the sly.  What should I do?  It’s been a long time since I felt like this about anybody.

A.  The answer is simple. You have a choice.  Decide which person is the most important to you.  The unscrupulous character with the piercing eyes or the friend who you claim you love.  Then go with that person. One of the most important things in life is to be able to live with one’s self.  Nothing can browbeat you more than your own conscience.  The real question is, which one can you do without?