I have two best friends and I’m about to marry. But my fiance is threatening to leave if they’re invited. What would you do?
by Sarah Smart
May 15, 2019
Q. My fiancé hates my best friends, and refuses to go around them. He resents our relationship. Last night, we got into a huge argument and he demanded that I not invite them to our wedding. He claims I’m too attached to them and if they’re there, he’s leaving. He feels that since I’m getting married, my girlfriends are no longer needed. I’m perplexed because I love him, but I also don’t want to lose my best friends. What would you do?
A. I would tell him that loving me meant accepting my relationships with other people, and that his ultimatum is ridiculous. I don’t think it’s a great way to start a marriage. You must decide if you’re going to be dominated or in charge of your wants and desires.. I think it’s a serious red flag of the craziness to come.
Q. A very close friend asked her fiancé (they plan to marry in two months) to give me a lift home from her house, and when we got to my door he tried to rape me. I fell getting out of his car, but I was able to escape. As I ran, he shouted threats at me, and told me that if I told anyone, he would hurt me. I have been scared ever since. I don’t know what to do. It’s obvious that he’s crazy and my friend is about to marry him. I already know that if I tell her, she won’t believe me. What can I do?
A. Tell her. What she does with the information is up to her, but she might surprise you. Be prepared for the worst, but be assured that you are doing the right thing. Meanwhile, don’t be intimidated by her fiancé’s threats. File a police report, take precaution and be careful.
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