You Know It’s Over When…

You Know

It’s Over

When…

 by Jan Pitts

June 13, 2018

Some of the more basic signals for endings might include the words “The End” at the finish of a book; the pink slip in the paycheck envelope; a “Dear John” letter; or even a dial tone in the middle of a phone conversation.  Signals like these are clear and concise, leaving no question as to what’s going on.  Realistically, not all endings are as overt, especially in the romance arena, but are usually most times easy enough to identify on a gut-level.  Exactly what are some of the tell-tale signs that signal when a relationship has become extinct?  Too many lovers don’t seem to want to let go when the obvious is obvious.   The question (put before men and women) opened the minds and mouths of a few where the feelings changed in a relationship and it was obvious by some tell-tale signs.  Here’s how they knew…

You Know It’s Over When…

…“It only takes two minutes to say goodnight at the end of a date.”

…“Kissing “hello” is no longer an automatic greeting.”

…“That small bump on her cheek begins to look repulsive.”

…“You’d rather watch CNN than take her out.”

…“He keeps stealing glances at his watch while you’re on a date.”

…“Her mispronounced words are no longer cute.”

…“The scent of his cologne stops giving you goosebumps.”

…“He winks at you across the table and it annoys you.”

…“When the sound of her voice grates your nerves .”

…“He won’t return your calls.”

…“Holding hands stops being part of your ritual”.

…“His once “big beautiful” teeth, start to remind you of tombstones.”

…“The music is soft and low, the wine is excellent and you wish you were alone with a good book.”

…“You see him and your heartbeat doesn’t speed up.”

…“Thoughts of her don’t make you smile.”

…“You hope he’s attracted to the new woman on his job.”

…“You throw out (with a lot of other useless stuff) anything that signifies time spent with him.”

…“The idea to relocate to another city suddenly sounds exciting.”

…“His calling you “poo-bear” grates on your nerves.”

…“His political and social naivete makes you want to scream.”

…“You wonder why you ever dated her.”

…“None of her plans include you.”

…“She won’t look into your eyes when she talks.”

…“She stops calling you “honey lips.”

…“You stop reading his horoscope in the newspaper.”

…“He slurps his coffee and it makes you nauseous.”

The funny thing is that too often when we see these various indications that all is not well, if we’re not ready for the relationship to end, we become masters at rationalizing our mate’s behavior using a blind eye.  We make excuses for them while all the while, we know that the feelings are no longer in sync…we’re just hoping we’re wrong, and things can go back to normal.