SingleScenes – 4-17-23

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q. My boyfriend gets a lot of attention from women when we’re out in public.  He’s a prominent attorney in this city, and being gorgeous and friendly helps make him a target for all the desperate women out there.  I’m frustrated because the women are very disrespectful to my presence at his side.  Many bombard him by slipping cards in his hand accompanied by whispered flirtations. One woman sent him a drink one night, and then came and threw it in my face when I sent the drink back.  He became angry with me and said I embarrassed him.  I think his behavior is disrespectful to me as well.  His position is that he can’t control the female attention and that I should stop sweating the small stuff and relax in my status as her girlfriend.  I took a poll in my office regarding this issue, and all the guys agreed with him and the women agreed with me.  What do you say?”

A. I say if you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. Boyfriends are dispensable. If you’re unhappy with your boyfriend’s behavior and he’s insensitive to what you feel, you need to move out of harm’s way to gain peace of mind.

Q. My boyfriend has an ex-girlfriend he can’t seem to get rid of.  She calls him incessantly, and he seems obligated to her in some way.  The thing that drives me nuts is that he’s always doing “favors” for her, and often it infringes on our time together.  When she calls, he drops everything to go and help her with some vague problem because “she has children.”  My friends are all in agreement that he still cares for her, but that doesn’t make sense to me.  What do you think?

A. Well, something ain’t right.  He either still cares for her, or doesn’t care enough about you.  Only you can determine the truth.  A man usually follows his heart to where he spends most of his time.  What does your heart tell you?  Is he stuck in the past with her, or excited about the present with you?

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