by Sarah Smart
Q. For two months, I’ve been dating a guy who has proven to be a real gem. But I found out recently that he used to date my cousin some years ago. Supposedly, he ended the relationship and she’s still bitter about it.
My cousin learned about us and has stopped speaking to me. My mother thinks I should stop seeing him for the sake of “family peace,” but my sisters feel I should be unaffected by my cousin’s behavior because the relationship is done. What do you think?
A. I think you should try to be reconciled with your cousin because it seems you’re an innocent bystander. But if she’s bent on her behavior toward you not changing, I would enjoy your “gem,” and wish her the best. It sounds like an unfortunate case of envy or lingering affection for someone who has apparently moved on.
Q. I just heard from a very reliable source that my boyfriend of three years is engaged to another woman, and something tells me it’s true. But if I confront him, he’ll only lie, and get angry with me for believing rumors. How can I find out the truth? I don’t want to lose him.
A. If you can afford to hire a detective, do so. If not, do some investigating on your own, and find out if it’s true. If it’s true, you’ve lost him anyway. But the interesting thing is you don’t want to lose a man who you know is a liar, and you believe could be cheating on you.
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