The Singles Scene
by Sarah Smart
Q. I’m part of a close-knit group of four friends who have been together since high school. I found out by accident that one of the women is secretly dating the boyfriend of one of the other women. I am so angry about this betrayal, but I don’t know what to do about it. I don’t wish to hurt my friend, but I’m burdened that I know and she doesn’t. What would you do? No one knows I know.
A. If you have no doubt that this is true, and can prove it, you should tell her. A good friend does not hide the truth from a friend. In a situation like this, the pain of knowledge will come either now or later.
Q. I live in a high-rise building and I’m dating a guy who lives four floors above me. I suspect he’s seeing someone else. The other night I saw him through the window. He got out of his car with another woman and walked into the building. But when I called him, he didn’t answer the phone. I’ve got to know who the woman was. Should I confront him or leave him? She could have been a family member.
A. I say leave him. This “romance” is too close for comfort and suspicion of his activity will never leave you unless you marry him.
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