SingleScenes – 4-15-20

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I’ve been dating a guy for a minute who has proven to be a real gem.  But I found out recently that he used to date my cousin years ago in college.  My cousin learned about us and has stopped speaking to me.  My mother thinks I should stop seeing him for the sake of “family peace,” because she was jilted by the guy, but my sisters feel I should be unaffected by my cousin’s “ridiculous” behavior.  What do you think?

A.  I think you should try to be reconciled to your cousin, because it seems you’re an innocent bystander.  But if she’s bent on her behavior toward you not changing, I would enjoy the “gem,” and wish her the best.  It sounds like an unfortunate case of envy or lingering affection for someone who has apparently moved on.

Q.  I am dating a guy 15 years younger than me and I am crazy about him.  However, most times, I can’t enjoy him in public, because I’m so self-conscious about the difference in our ages.  Recently at a party, I overheard his friend refer to me as “the old lady”, and I haven’t been able to go out with him since.  He claims he really cares and he doesn’t care what others think.  I can’t take the stares anymore.  What do you think?

A.  I think you’re being ridiculous.  Who cares who’s older than who?   (By the way, where I come from, the term “old lady” has nothing to do with age.  It was generally used to identify a man’s wife or sweetheart.)  Pull yourself together and try to see what he obviously sees…and that’s a woman whom he wants to be with.

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