SingleScenes – 4-6-20

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.   My best friend (against my advice) is sneaking around with my married brother, and my sister in law (who has a violent temper) just informed me that she suspects my brother is playing around, and that she plans to follow him until she catches him.  I’m in a real crossfire because she trusts me with her secrets.  But I feel obligated to tell my brother what she said.  I’m certain that my sister in law will feel betrayed, but I’m in the middle and I don’t know how to get out.  What would you do?

A.  Tell your brother and your best friend that his wife is suspicious and plans to follow him.  I mean, there are “secrets”, and then there are secrets.  This is not a secret to keep.   Someone could get hurt.  In any case, your friend could stand a little shakeup.

Q.   I am currently involved with a woman who is devoted to me.  She does everything I want and whatever she thinks I want.  But I’m bored with her and have fallen in love with someone else.  She is very smothering and needy, and I have gotten to the point, where I can’t stand her voice on the phone.  The problem is I don’t know how to get rid of her.
I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but she can’t take a hint.  I don’t call or take her out anymore, yet she clings to me like a life preserver.  What can I do?

A.  Be honest and tell her that you have found someone else.  It’s just that simple.  You’re hurting her anyway by avoiding her.  So let her off the emotional hook and tell her why you’re doing it.  Be a man, and let her know that her behavior is draining and unbecoming.  It takes guts to do this.  Hope you can find some.

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