SingleScenes – 5-8-19

SingleScenes

I didn’t tell my bride-to-be that I’ve been married twice before.  Do you think I should before the wedding?

Q.  I am getting married to a woman in a few months that I have lied to.  I told her that I had only been married once before, when I’ve actually been married twice.  My conscience is really bothering me because I don’t want to go into a marriage with a lie.  But somehow I feel such news will affect our relationship.  My friends say this is a secret I should keep.  What do you say?

A.  I say…you should confess your lie and confess it now. You don’t want to go into a marriage with deceit.  Just think about the shoe being on the other foot. You certainly wouldn’t want her to discover this secret from a source other than you.

Q.  I’m engaged to a guy I’m very suspicious of.  I often catch him staring hungrily at my best friend, and she is very nervous around him.  I believe in my heart that he has hit on her.  But when I confronted him about staring at her, he called me paranoid and childish.  When I asked her if he had approached her inappropriately, she denied it, but she couldn’t look me in the eye.  My gut tells me that I can’t trust this man, and I’m ready to call the wedding off.  My mom thinks I’ve overreacting to a suspicious nature.  What do you think?

A.   I think a woman’s intuition is her private warning system, and if she trusts it, she should follow it.  I’ve always followed mine, and it has never been wrong.  I say, you shouldn’t be marrying a man you don’t trust anyway, regardless of your gut feeling.

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