SingleScenes – 12-12-22

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  After a book club meeting recently, I invited this guy to join me for coffee.  I’d been admiring him and I thought I’d take a chance.  It turned out he didn’t have a car, and I offered him a ride.  However, when he asked if his “girlfriend” (who was also there looking unattached) could join us.  Stunned, I nodded a reluctant yes. When we got there, I pretended to have a sudden headache and dropped them off.  But, I was so angry with myself because I didn’t know how to get out of it once I realized my mistake, and this kind of thing happens to me often.  What would you have done?

A.  Once I saw the girlfriend, I would have gotten the headache then.  I think you responded the way you did because you were embarrassed by your intent and thrown off by the “surprise intruder.”  But don’t let it bring you down. You might want to adopt the rule of not overriding your comfort level to accommodate others, especially strangers..

Q.  Two weeks ago, my fiancé told me he was going out of town on business and he would be gone a week.  Two nights later, I spotted him coming out of a restaurant on another side of town, with his arms wrapped around another woman and they were kissing.  He didn’t see me and I didn’t confront him.  I haven’t told anyone else about it because I’m so embarrassed.  I love him and don’t want to do anything to spoil our wedding plans.  I haven’t slept since the incident.  What’s your advice?

A.   Call off the wedding, unless you don’t mind being married to a big liar and a cheat. If you’re not sleeping now, wait ‘til you marry him.  Swallow the embarrassment and move on.

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