The Heartbreak Hurdle – Getting Over The Hurt

The Heartbreak Hurdle

Getting Over The Hurt

by Jan Pitts

Two years ago, a close friend’s “fiancé” left her to stand at the altar alone in a packed church and eloped with an ex-girlfriend.  She spent exactly two weeks getting over the devastating hurt.  She gathered herself up, took her “honeymoon” cruise alone to Europe, and came back a new woman, emotionally and spiritually.  The following year, she met the real man of her dreams, eloped, and is now living happily ever after.  She credits the following letter, which her mother slipped inside her suitcase, to help her find her way out of the darkness of her pain.

My Dearest Daughter,

So… it ended and you think life is so cruel, but time will teach you a valuable lesson.  That same man that you thought you couldn’t live without, will one day be a shadow of a memory. Unfortunately, hurt and pain are part of living that must be conquered each time it’s encountered.  So, stop feeling sorry for yourself and take a good look at the relationship.  Did it really have a chance?  Were the two of you really compatible?  Was it fulfilling for you as an individual?  Ask yourself these questions honestly and objectively and then write the answers down while writing, make a note of the good times and the bad times, and see which outweighs the other.

Was there really a good reason to give him your heart?  Many times, we think we want something so badly and it turns out that it was not the best thing for us in the first place.  Remember, anything that’s divinely meant for you, you cannot miss.  You will get all you’re supposed to have based on God’s will for your life…but it’s always in His time.  Keep this in mind and it will assist you in getting over the hurt every time there’s a need to do so.

Remember, how much in love you were with you know who, and how you thought you would never get over them as long as you breathe?  Then you met this “new love” and you tore up all the pictures you had of the old love.  So, you’ll get over this one the same way.  Each day is a new beginning.  Look at it in this manner and your heart will mend much faster.  But next time, don’t give your heart away so easily.  Wait…test the water and see if it’s warm enough to go in, and then plunge into it and give it all you got. Most importantly, keep in mind that you can never miss what’s really meant for you.