The Good And The Ugly
by Sierra Silverspoon
For singles, Valentine’s Day is especially special, because it’s a day set aside for love. This day can be either a stark reminder of how alone we are, (with no one to send us cards or flowers) or how loved we are. I know few singles who fail to note the day, as it relates to their relationship status. However, some are more cavalier about it than others.
One friend gets very excited about the day if she’s in “love,” and depressed when she’s not. To her, to be alone on Valentine’s Day with no expectation of a flower delivery is one of the worst things that could happen to a single girl. After talking to other women, I found she is not alone.
Suzanne – “Two years ago, my boyfriend moved out on Valentine’s Day. I came home from work with his favorite pizza in hand, to find his closet empty and a note that read, “I’m sorry, but I love another.” His move was unexpected and I was haunted by this note for over a year, but the pain of his departure eventually faded away. Then last Valentine’s Day, he showed up unexpectedly at my door with flowers and candy. When I opened the door, he handed me a note that read,” I’ve come to realize that I could never love another, as long as I love you.” When I looked at him, he had tears in his eyes, and I forgave him on the spot. He moved back the next day with an engagement ring in hand.”
Peggy – “Last year on Valentine’s Day, after breaking up with my boyfriend of four years, I was standing in a supermarket looking through all the Valentine cards in search of a card for my sister. I was on the verge of tears when a hand touched my shoulder from behind. It turned out to be a guy I’d been in love with in college, who didn’t even remember my name. Of course, he also didn’t know I’d been an admirer. In fact, he couldn’t even remember why my face looked so familiar. When I told him who I was, he looked embarrassed, but he also looked at me as if I was the most beautiful woman he’d ever seen. We stood talking for over thirty minutes and then he asked if I would join him for lunch. We ended up spending the rest of the day together…and we’re still together.”
Danielle – “My longtime boyfriend had gone out of town on business four days before Valentine’s Day, and I was missing him like mad when Valentine’s Day rolled around. We had finally broached the subject of marriage over the Christmas holidays, and I was hoping I’d get a ring for Valentine’s Day. At work that afternoon, I received a Fed Ex Box from him. When I opened it, there was a picture of the two of us grinning at each other taped to a small box, and a note asking me to call him before I opened the box. When I did, there was a beautiful diamond ring sitting on a cushion of velvet. He proposed to me on the phone. When I hung up, I let out a scream and all of my co-workers came running to congratulate me.”
Marisa – “I cooked an elaborate dinner for my boyfriend on Valentine’s Day, and he showed up late with no card or even a small box of candy. I was so hurt, I couldn’t enjoy my dinner. The next day, I threw him and the leftovers out!”
Haleya – “I had been dating this guy about two months when he invited me to go away with him on a Valentine Weekend Getaway up in the country. I packed my things and sat waiting on him to pick me up, but he never showed up or called until the next day. When he finally called, he claimed his car broke down, and his cell phone was dead. I didn’t believe him and I refused to talk to him again.”
Dina – “On Valentine’s Day last year, I was in the middle of dressing to go on a date with my longtime boyfriend, when my doorbell rang. When I opened the door, a woman stood there holding up a picture of her and my boyfriend kissing. Then she spoke words that I will never forget. “I just wanted you to know that we share the same man. You get Valentine’s Day and I get Christmas.” I stood speechless, as she walked away. When I closed the door, I recalled how he claimed to have to always spend Christmas with his kids from a previous marriage. I called and canceled our date without explaining why, and I never dated him again.”