What Would Be Said Of You?

What Would

Be Said Of You?

by Bonita Bennett

When a cousin complained to a co-worker about how cheap everyone at her office had been when she got married, and how extravagant they were when another co-worker married before her (The co-worker received over $800 and she got nothing) her response was blunt.  “Well, it seems that being a lovely person is more important to her than it is to you.”

When she pressed her to explain, she said my cousin could be curt, deceiving, overly critical, and verbally offensive.  She also referred to her as very negative and selfish.  She gave example after example of her alienating behavior and she was devastated.  It was a far cry from the way she saw herself.  She said the woman’s candor helped her understand why she didn’t have any real friends.

Most of us want to be held in high regard, included, loved, recognized and acknowledged, but this is not easily attained if we fail to acquire the social skills needed to distinguish ourselves.

In my corner of the world, there are a number of people I am prone to avoid because of their inability to play nice.  There are those who just don’t work and play well with others…nor care to.  If you remember, in grammar school, we were graded on this skill as children, and one of the basics of this judging scale was that you learned how to get along with others in a significant way.

When one is usually described as a wonderful person, that individual is commonly viewed as genuine, kind, fair-minded, honest in words and deed, and a stand-up person, whose tongue basically speaks the language of Good.  This person usually has a genuine interest in others, is not competitive, and is happy when others achieve.  In other words, this person is usually regarded as a delightful or distinguished encounter not easily forgotten.

Most of us desire to be in close company with those who make us feel good in their presence and/or have the ability to bring a special light to our private corners.  It’s also natural for us to hope that such a feeling occurs when we’re thought of.

Bonita Bennett, founder, publisher  Of Being Single Magazine and a former TV/radio personality, is the author of  the books “How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams,”  and The Coming Of Dawn.  She is also a nationally recognized life coach/relationship expert, and noted motivational speaker, whose life-changing counseling techniques, classes and innovative workshops on life-skills, inter-personal relationships, conflict management, and problem solving are well-known in her field.  Bonita Bennett is also the editor-in-chief of Being Single Magazine.   Be sure to get your copy of  her two books…Meanwhile, read the  excerpts from the mystery novel…The Coming Of Dawn and How To Catch & Keep The Man Of Your Dreams.