College Is Ideal
by Abigail Dye
February 26, 2018
You’ve heard it a thousand times – this is the prime of your life. The four years you have in college just may be the best years you live. You are currently writing the memories that you will look back at and call “the good old days” – so you should make the most out of it.
In college, the relationship scene is interesting. It seems like people are either bitterly single, or tied down. At this point in your life, there is so much to look forward to. A career, travel, networking, learning new things, figuring out what you want to do next – the list goes on. There is no need to rush into the white-picket-fence fantasy of getting married and starting a family. If you rush yourself into settling down, there is little to look forward to. If the relationship is worth it, and this is real love, it can wait. So, in college, you don’t have to be tied down – or the bitter single. Here are four solid reasons why you being single in college is completely worth it.
This time is about you…be selfish.
During college, your main goal is to figure out what you want to do with your life – and get a degree. College is a time for ups, downs, failures and successes, all of which will teach you something about yourself and your skills. You won’t ever be able to understand anyone else if you haven’t taken the time to get to know and understand yourself – alone time allows you to do this. The more time spent with a boo, is less time spent on you.
Another benefit of being single in college is the fact that you can socialize with anyone you want. When in a relationship, you may not realize it, but you will naturally gravitate towards people who don’t pose a threat. When you’re single, chances are you will gravitate towards other singles, and those are the people you bond with for life.
Freedom in college is invaluable. When single, you don’t have to answer ridiculous questions prompted by jealousy. You don’t have to ask permission to do something fun, you don’t have to check in with anyone, and you don’t have to worry if your decision will start a fight. College is about you, your education and your experience. Being selfish is completely okay… this may be your last opportunity to do so.
The confidence you gain from being single is truly remarkable. When you are happy single, YOU are responsible for that. No one else. When you’re single, there is no one to depend on when you’re feeling down –no shoulder to cry on. This may seem sad, but we develop our strongest characteristics when we face things alone. Look back at your life, it was the hardest times that made you who you are today. If you want to mold into the best you that you can possibly be, the best way to do it is alone. Not the only way, but the best way. Once you’ve climbed your mountains, conquered your fears and achieved your goals, you can look to settle down. If you wait to get serious with someone, you’re only allowing yourself, and your options, to enhance.