12 Steps To Smart Dating

12 Steps To

Dating Smart 

by Lisa Laird

January 28, 2019

After a lengthy debate about dating with a friend whose brain excels in books, and vanishes at the sight of a handsome male, I decided to make a list for men and women on how to take some of the anguish out of dating, and make a favorable, indelible mark in the minds of all they encounter.

1. You must know what you want! Never trade your preference for a little company.
2. Don’t adapt to his/her game plan. Have your own…with your own set of rules.
3. Look closely with piercing scrutiny for the qualities you want. Don’t be blinded by looks, words or things.
4. Search for his/her capacity to be your friend. This trait is important, because ultimately the best relationship is with your friend.
5. Don’t accept handouts for attention or affection.  Learn to negotiate for your needs and wants.  Don’t be too quick to accept whatever is offered for a little companionship
6. .Don’t react to everything that is not to your liking unless it crosses the line.
7. Observe his/her friends carefully. Like minds usually band together
8. Don’t invent a life or fake your credentials. You are who you are…one of a kind.  Stand proud.
9. Don’t go against what’s comfortable for you, to do something you don’t want to do. Never stretch yourself to impress or gain approval.  It usually produces the reverse effect.  If he/she is a wolf, and you want a dove, don’t try to make them a dove.  Leave him/her be and hold out for what you want.
10. If your dad doesn’t like him, tear up the number.  Men can usually see through other men.  If your mother doesn’t like her…run.  Women can always see through other women.
11. If your dog doesn’t like your date, keep your eyes wide open.
12. Be sure to listen well and pay close attention.  Don’t spend time selling yourself.  Relax. The person will either like you or they won’t.