10 Ways To Not
Blow It On
The First Date
by Lisa Laird
Watch what you say. Your conversation plays a large role in how appealing you remain. If you’re gorgeous, but dull, the evening won’t go well. Check your conversation to see if you’re funny, interesting and witty. Be current. Know what’s going on in the world, and strive to have an interesting view on life.
Curb Your Excitement: Treat it as a nice break from a busy life and never act if you feel the person is blessing you with their presence.
Read the signs well. I don’t care if you’d been looking forward to this date all week, don’t try to prolong the evening when it’s obvious the other person has moved on mentally and is ready to call it a night. Act like you have a life, and other important things to do.
Talk about yourself, but not effusively. Be very cognizant of how often you use the “I” word. Try not to overload your date with how great you are and how loved you are by all who know you.
Curb Your Curiosity: Don’t ask imposing questions like, “what is that thing on your nose?” or “Is your hair a weave?”
Restrain Yourself: Never do anything you don’t want to do, and don’t try to impress him/her with your “flexibility” if you don’t feel it. Also, if you’re “starved,” meaning it’s been a long time since you’ve been on a date, work hard to appear fed and content with your life.
Save Your History: Don’t tell your life story on the first date. It comes off like it’s been a long time since you had someone to talk to or that you may be lonely.
Subdue Your Smartness: Try not to be a “know it all,” who’s been everywhere and seen everything. Be impressed, but don’t gush.
Relax. Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be the person you think this person might prefer. Those who depict their true selves have a higher success rate with the opposite sex, than those who don’t.
Be Confident In Your Appeal: Don’t spend time selling yourself. The person will either like you or they won’t. And if it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t mean you were less than, it just means it wasn’t meant to be. When the night ends, and you’re uncertain as to whether you made a good impression or not, don’t worry about it. Remember, you can’t ever lose what destiny has in store for you.