Getting Married? 10 Ways To Tell It’s Love

Getting Married? 

10 Ways To Tell It’s Love

by CoCo Diong

True love is more than a sensation, though you may feel on top of the world when you are with the one you “love.”  The kind of love God intended us to have is not the love most of us experience today. When our emotions are attached with the glue of passion to a member of the opposite sex, we are quick to call it love, and when our hearts twiddle and our stomachs drop at the sound of his/her voice or the mention of their name, we call it love.  But if you’re planning for June nuptials, you need to read the following to see if you’re in compliance:  Love Is…

• Kindness: If you are not active in doing good and showing kindness to your mate, it is not love that you feel.  It is something else.
• The lack of envy; love is not possessive and is non-competitive. If you’re in real love, you won’t envy the attention your mate gets or gives.  You won’t want to marry him/her to possess them; you won’t see your mate as belonging to you.  If you’re in love, you’ll want your mate to achieve and excel.  You won’t envy his/her accomplishments.
• Love does not brag or strive to be seen in an admirable light.  Love does not parade itself.  It waits to be noticed.
• A manner that is not rude, but courteous. If you love, you do not have an exaggerated sense of self.  Your manner is a ray of sunshine to everyone who rounds the corner and bumps into you.
• A person who does not seek his/her own way. Love does not insist on its own right, nor does it demand precedence over others.  If you love, you are unselfish.  You do not demand love from your mate.  You love unconditionally.
• Grace under pressure. If you love, you are not irritable, touchy or hostile.
• An attitude that erases resentments. When one loves, one does not keep an account of wrongs done to him/her.  Love suffers long for the sake of love and hopes for the best.
• A person who speaks well of his mate and of others. A person in love advertises the good and does not focus on the bad.
• A person who is not suspicious. Real love has no room for suspicion.  When you fall in love, you believe the best about others and credit them with good intentions.
• One who never gives up on people. Real love defends and honors others in speech and remains loyal to the end.

However, the most important one is  Patience.  You cannot be in love and not have patience with the imperfections of your mate and others.  Love is very tolerant.

Before a person marries, they should examine these definitions of love and measure that against what they feel.  If more people used the chapter on love in the Bible as a barometer for what they feel, there would be fewer divorces and happier marriages.