SingleScenes – 3-27-24

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I have a serious crush on a co-worker, and he walks around me like he doesn’t know I exist.  I don’t think he’s interested because he won’t even look at me. Still, my friends have convinced me that there’s a strong possibility that he may be interested and afraid to acknowledge his interest because I’m popular at work.  I’m writing you because I want to invite him to my friend’s party as my date, and I wanted your opinion.  What would you do?

A.  Nothing.  I feel no man could be that shy in 2024.  It seems that you are doing what many women do…rationalize and separate the truth from a desire.  I say, leave him be until he gives you a reason to continue admiring him.  As a rule, mutual admiration doesn’t hide itself.  Meanwhile, feel free to invite him to the party, but not as your date.

Q.  One of my closest friends admires my boyfriend, and she has no cool about hiding it.  She flirts with him openly whenever we’re out together or when we run into her.  My boyfriend claims to be oblivious to her behavior, but I believe he knows.  I want to tell her about herself, but I know she’ll blow up in denial and it will affect our relationship.  What should I do?  It’s driving me crazy because she is so bold. and disrespectful

A.  Tell her what you suspect, and let her blow up.  It’s better to confront your aggravation than to keep it to yourself.  Put her on notice that you see her, and maybe she’ll cool out.  Meanwhile, if I were you, I would change her status from friend to former friend.

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