I admire a co-worker, who doesn’t seem to notice me, but I want to invite him to be my date for an upcoming party.
by Sarah Smart
May 23, 2018
Q. I have a serious admiration for a co-worker, and he walks around me like he doesn’t know I exist. I don’t think he’s interested because he won’t even look at me, but my friends have convinced me that there’s a strong possibility that he may be interested and afraid to acknowledge his interest. I’m writing you because I want to invite him to my friend’s party as my date, and I wanted your opinion. What would you do?
A. Nothing. I personally feel no man could be that shy in 2018. It seems that you are doing what a lot of women do…rationalize and separate the truth from a desire. I say, leave him be, until he gives you a reason to continue admiring him. As a rule, mutual admiration doesn’t hide itself. Meanwhile, feel free to invite him to a party, but not as your date.
Q. I have a serious problem. One of my closest buddies obviously admires my boyfriend, and she has no cool about it. She flirts with him openly whenever we’re out together or when we run into her. My boyfriend claims to be oblivious to her behavior, but I believe he knows. I want to tell her about herself, but I know she’ll blow up in denial. What should I do? It’s really driving me crazy, because she is so bold.
A. Tell her what you suspect, and let her blow up. It’s best to confront your aggravation, than to keep it to yourself. Put her on notice that you see her, and maybe she’ll cool out. Meanwhile, if I were you, I would change her status in my world.
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