The Singles Scene – 9-1-22

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q.  I just found out by accident that my sister has been carrying on a secret affair with my best friend’s boyfriend, and they’re planning to elope to Las Vegas. I made a promise not to tell, but my conscience is bothering me.  My best friend is deeply in love with this guy, and he is deceiving her big time because he doesn’t have the guts to tell her the truth. My sister is trying to hit me with this guilt thing about my loyalty should first be to her.  But I feel like I’m a part of the betrayal.  What would you do?

A.  I would tell my best friend because I’d want to be told.  Sometimes, doing the right thing supersedes family loyalty.

Q.  A good friend’s ex-lover asked me out and I’m available.  I have always found him attractive and I would like to go.  She’s involved happily in a new relationship.  However, I know it will make her very unhappy, because she still loves him.  What do you think I should do?  I hate to miss this opportunity,

A.  Personally, I wouldn’t go, because I wouldn’t want to violate the friendship or go where she’s been.  I say…Find your own fish in the sea.

Q.  Because I have a suspicious nature, I was snooping around my boyfriend’s house one day when he went to get his car washed, and I found a photo of him and another woman embracing. I’m very upset about it.  I want to show it to him and ask for an explanation, but I don’t want him to know I’m a snoop.  What would you do?

A.  Ignore it and stop snooping.  How do you think he’ll feel about you violating his trust?  However, I would consider the photo a Lover’s Alert and keep my eyes open to see if there’s a reason to be suspicious.

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