SingleScenes – 5-2-24

SingleScenes

by Sarah Smart

Q.  My ex-boyfriend is trying to come back after a heart-breaking incident that left me scarred for life. Two years ago, he claimed he was going to a family reunion in Hawaii and went on his honeymoon instead. Later, I found out he married a girl who worked in his office. I felt hatred for him, which consumed me until I began going to church.  Now, he’s divorced, “repentant”   and confessing his love for me.  He’s bombarding me with talk of marriage and “making it up” to me.  l still love him.  I know I must forgive him, but do you think I’d be stupid to trust him again?  I haven’t told a soul about his reappearance, because I’m afraid of what others will say.  What do you say?

A.  Deceitfulness is a character flaw  seldom healed by “repentance.”  To forgive means not to hold a grudge, but it does not mean you should go back into the lion’s den, and reunite with the same lion that bit you. I suggest you consult with your pastor.

Q.  I love a man who loves another, but I can’t seem to let go of him. When he told me he was marrying someone else, I considered ending my life.  How can I get him out of my mind and my heart?  I hate losing him to someone else.

A.  I’m dumbfounded.  Why isn’t the fact that he doesn’t want you enough to get him out of your mind?  Frankly, I think you’re being a brat.  Face it…you lost. Pray and ask God to move him off your heart.  You can’t always win, or have everything you want.

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