The Singles Scene – 9-7-22

The Singles Scene

by Sarah Smart

Q.  My boyfriend gave me an engagement ring after proposing to me on a double date with my best friend. However, a week later, he called and asked for it back after we had a very heated argument.  I refused, and he’s threatening to sue me to get his ring.  I want to keep the ring because I’m certain that we’ll eventually make up.  But he is insisting that I return the ring.  What would you do?  I would be too embarrassed if I had to return the ring.  I’ve shown it to everyone.

A.  Wow…you must have had some argument. I would give the ring back, apologize for my behavior, and wait to see if he wants to make up.  I think you should remain optimistic, but I wouldn’t hold the ring as ransom.

Q.  I am on my way to the altar with one, but I’m in love with his best friend. Our huge wedding is four weeks away and each day I realize that I settled for this guy because I couldn’t have his friend.  His friend is very involved with someone else and is not remotely interested in me.  However, I cannot go on with this farce.  I wish to call the wedding off, but my mother is insisting that I go through with the wedding because my fiancée is such a good guy and so much money has been spent..  She believes I’ll eventually fall in love with him, and my family is also very concerned about the embarrassment.  What do you say?

A.  This is one time I would not take my mother’s advice. If you haven’t fallen in love yet, it is most likely you won’t.  I suggest you tell your fiancée you are not ready to be married.  There is no point in telling him the truth.  It will serve no purpose.  You also need to tell him as soon as possible.  The sooner you tell him…the sooner he can get started getting over you.  Thank goodness, you came to this realization before the wedding.

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