Point Of View:
Smitten: The Dream
by Dale Smith
It had happened again. I had grown bored and disillusioned in yet another relationship, and as usual, 1 had taken the coward’s way out. Instead of explaining to my last romantic encounter that for me the chemistry had petered out, 1 just became unavailable. 1 stopped calling and 1 avoided her calls, emails, and text messages. When she finally caught me at work one day and demanded to know what my problem was, 1 felt like an idiot, as 1 stammered through a fake excuse. She slammed the phone down when she angrily asked the profanity-laced question…what was 1 looking for in a woman? In my meekest voice, 1 answered…”I don t know.”
However, 1 lied because 1 do know and my biggest problem was that I knew going in, but my standards became temporarily clouded by the sex and the newness of the encounter.
I want to be in love, but what 1 want is a woman whose spirit reflects a good attitude and a healthy level of self-esteem. She has a lot to offer and she knows it. The good feelings she has about herself are evident, and I feel good when I’m with her.
She’s straightforward with a personality that sparkles in the dim light of adversity, trials, and disappointments. She reflects no bitterness or disillusionment regardless of her experiences, and the baggage of her past is left at the door of our beginning. Her affinity to please others is limited, yet she is gracious and warm to all she encounters.
She is as comfortable in jeans as she is in silk, and she doesn’t care what her man does for a living, as long as he’s happy at what he does. She’s conscious of the current fashion trends, yet she creates her own style. She is beautiful to me, but not only because of her features. Her beauty shines from within while she does all she can to enhance the outer. She understands that few people welcome criticism and she avoids expressing it. She sees herself as a woman of many dimensions.
She’s serious, yet mischievous, committed, and adventurous. She searches beneath the surface for the good points in her man, even when the bad ones are on display. She’s sassy in speech but spiritual in deeds. She’s open, yet mysterious. Her actions are not based on what others think, but more on what she feels. Sincerity, sweetness, and understanding influence her daily behavior, while fun, laughter, and unpredictability are indigenous to her soul.
Yes. 1 know what 1 want, but 1 have yet to find her. But I am convinced that one day God will bring this woman before me, as the divine selection. Until that time, I’ll make a better effort at making fewer missteps along the way.