The Singles Scene
by Sarah Smart
Q. My boyfriend of four months cries broke all the time because of his “responsibilities.” Whenever we go out, I spend the money. I do this, so we can be together. I loaned him $100.00 once, and he never mentioned it again. I didn’t say anything because I don’t want to do anything to spoil our time together. However, last week on my birthday, he gave me a beautiful card, no gift, and took me to a fast food place for dinner. I was so hurt, I cried all night. My friends, who don’t have boyfriends) say he doesn’t really care and I should drop him. I just don’t want to alone again. What do you say?
A. Your friends are right. No real man would always let you pick up the tab, and no real man would pass up the opportunity to treat you good on your birthday. Wait for someone who will treat you like you wish to be treated. It will be worth it. If you play in the mud, you’re bound to get dirty. Get some good soap and wash him out of your hair.
Q. At my birthday party last month, my best friend’s boyfriend gave me a birthday card with two hundred dollars cash, and a note on the card asking me to call him because he needed to talk to me about something. I want to return the money because I think the gift was too extravagant and I feel his motive is suspect. I don’t want to call him, yet I don’t wish to offend him by giving the money back. What do you think? I believe he’s interested in me on the sly.
A. I would call him to see what he wanted and be prepared to set him straight if he gets out of line. But I wouldn’t return the money unless there’s some favor attached to it or you feel very uncomfortable with accepting it
Got a problem or a confession? We’ve got the answer. Send us your scenarios regarding The Single Life to firstname.lastname@example.org and put SingleScenes in the subject line.