7 Things To Know To Get The Child Support You Want

7 Things To Know

To Get The Child

Support You Want

by Lisa Laird

March 5, 2019

If you have a child and the father  of your child  doesn’t act responsible financially, try the following:  :

1. Act like an adult. Realize it’s no longer important for you to teach him a lesson.  What is important is for him to be a good parent.  If you’re lucky he may follow your good example and become just that.
2. If he pays on time, say “thank you” and mean it. Tell him how much you appreciated receiving the support payments on time, and that you were really sweating it out without them.  Be prepared to have him rebuff your kindness, but remember sometimes being nice pays dividends.
3. When he lets you down, try not to react negatively. Don’t interrogate children about their visit with their dad.  It’s sure to get back to him and that could add to problems.  If he realizes you don’t care what he’s up to, he may be more reasonable.
4. Keep your mouth closed about your social life. That’s your business now.  And don’t wonder about his.
5. Just because the two of you are no longer partners doesn’t mean the kids should be deprived of him. As long as he’s reasonably responsible, don’t make his visits with the kids difficult or he’ll find some way to make your life miserable.
6. Call your lawyer. When he’s later than usual with his support payments, and after you’ve tried to get a satisfactory answer as to when you’re likely to receive them, call your attorney.
7. Have confidence in your attorney. Ask questions.  Don’t be afraid to discuss fees.  A consultation fee advising you on how to do your own leg work may be cheaper than using his full services.  Ask if it will be less expensive for you to go to family court to make a petition for payment by yourself, or if it warrants hiring an attorney to proceed.  Inquire about a wage deduction order.  Another alternative is going to small claims court and acting on your own behalf.