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13 Things

Girls Wish

Guys Knew

by Coco Diong

September 19, 2018

  1. Never quote on a sporadic basis, various statements or comments from others made favorably regarding your qualities. Let us find out for ourselves.
  2. We always want to hear what you find special about us. Words are very important to us.  Use good ones…liberally.
  3. Never compliment another woman about her hair or dress, when you are out with us…and never let an evening end without you telling us how beautiful we look.    MORE

14 Things Guys

Wish Girls Knew…  

by Jake Landis

September 19, 2018

  1. Don’t take everything we do so personally.  We cannot behave, feel, think or talk the way you think we should. Believe it or not, we are not the same.  Please allow for the fact that our brains work on a different scale.
  2. When we want to tell you something, we’ll tell you.  Don’t badger us about what’s going on in our heads when we’re quiet.  Silence could mean a lot of things.  We could be savoring the relationship or be pre-occupied with a personal dilemma we don’t wish to discuss.  MORE

Happy Hours

10 Steps

To Satisfied

Living…

by Jan Pitts

August 24, 2018

Slow Down.  Schedule time to spend with yourself.  In this way, you declare yourself important. Place yourself at the center of your life.  If you don’t, why should anyone else?

Mingle More.  Join a group that doing something you like.  Get out and go where the action is!

Discover The World.  Make it a practice to do something you’ve never done before at least once a month and schedule it.

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10 Steps To Being

Sought After…

by Lisa Laird

1.   Exchange the words “can I” for “may I,” when making a request.

2.   Have a good sense of humor.

3.   Never ever give accolades to yourself.

4.   Smile when you meet a stranger’s eyes.

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Where Are

The Fathers?

by Theo McNee

July 23, 2018

Last month, I attended a Father & Daughter banquet with my eleven year old daughter at her school and I was amazed at the number of African-American girls who were there without their dads and were accompanied by their grandfathers or uncles.  My daughter later told me that many of her classmates didn’t have fathers at home.  After we talked, I recalled my own childhood, and how my brother and I and another kid on my block were the only three boys in the entire neighborhood who had a visible connection with their fathers.  Everyone else was either being raised by their mother, who was a single parent or a grandmother.   MORE


“When I Fell In Love,

I Never Expected…”

July 22, 2018

“…to walk down the aisle after knowing her for only six weeks.”   Bill

“…that she would turn out to be such a loser.”  Larry   MORE


Inside The

Party Scene

Feelings, Attitudes, Etc..

by M.K. Allison

July 16, 2018

Everybody loves a good party, and a great party is even better.  Most describe a good party as good food, great music and interesting people in a great space.  For many singles, it’s one of the best places to hook up with the opposite sex, and make some viable connections, but for some it’s a dead-end street.  We went to a party and decided to talk to some singles about their attitudes and feelings regarding the party scene The party was on the rooftop of a very upscale hotel in Chicago.  The crowd was diverse and eclectic.   Here’s what we heard…MORE


For Your Next Party

Play The Game
Of  “Secrets”

by Coco Diong

July 4, 2018

I was at an intimate party recently, with about thirty people present, and we were heavily into a discussion on male/female relationships, when the host suggested we play a game called “Secrets.”  To play this game, the participants sat on the floor in a circle consisting of five players and a pair of dice.  We ended up with four groups.  Each person was asked to call out a number before the dice were thrown.  If the dice displayed your number, you didn’t have to tell a secret or make a confession, but the rest of the group did.   MORE


Bully-Proof

How Free Are You?

by Theo McNee

I felt pure sympathy as I listened to my co-worker vent in profane language her frustration about what just happened to her in a meeting.  Another co-worker in the same meeting had not only stolen her idea, which the boss praised as a good one, but when co-worker #1 tried to stop her by asserting herself, co-worker #2 called her a stupid liar in front of her peers.  The problem was that co-worker #1 said nothing.  She just stormed out of the conference room in tears, and co-worker #2, who was considered the office bully got away with deceit and intimidation AGAIN!.    MORE


Sex And

The Single Life

June 11, 2018

C.L.  “A sexy body may entice me to come up, but it won’t necessarily make me come back.”

J.D.  “When my friend died four years ago from AIDS, I stopped having sex.  She was in what appeared to be a committed relationship, and she and her partner both contracted AIDS and died.  I’m abstaining because I don’t trust men anymore, and I don’t want to take the chance of sleeping with someone whom I really care about, and he’s sleeping somewhere else.  I’m happier now than I’ve been in a long time.  I have what I call platonic dates, and I sleep well at night, alone.”   MORE


What Not To

Do This

Summer… 

by M.K. Allison

June 1, 2018

This is going to be the best summer ever for me, because I’m going to get out and let the wind blow through my hair.  I began last week by shining my bike up for long glorious rides along Chicago’s beautiful lakefront.  But it’s summertime across the country and singles should be out doing all kinds of things that correlate with warm weather…Bike-riding, beach sitting, alfresco dining, park walks, water sports, amusement parks, bench reading, rollerblading, sailing, boat-riding, canoeing, sunbathing, picnicking, Bar BQ’s, outdoor concerts, travel, etc.  Unfortunately, for many, summer serves as just hot weather to perform their same old routines in.   MORE


How Healthy

Are You?

by Dr. Candace Jensen

May 28, 2018

A close friend had been living with severe abdominal pain for months and refused to go to the doctor.  Her biggest excuse was that doctors were just out to rip you off, and that they created strange diagnoses just to make the hospitals richer.  When she collapsed at work in severe pain, and was rushed to the hospital, it turned out that she had gallstones and needed emergency surgery right away.  Another friend kept experiencing shooting pain in one of her breasts, and attributed it to wearing the wrong kind of bra.  It turned out, after her mother insisted she  visit the doctor, that she was in the early stages of breast cancer.  MORE


Why Some

Women Don’t

Get Chosen

by Jay Wright

May 21, 2018

It was a Friday night and as usual a few friends and I were out for drinks at our favorite hangout.  There was Larry, the stock broker, Johnny, “the real estate tycoon,” William, the school teacher, and myself, the writer.  Out of the four of us, William was the only one who attracts women without trying.  He is the “playa” of the group.   That night, the topic was on why certain women aren’t chosen.  I had just met a beautiful woman whom I needed some insight on because I just wasn’t certain about whether or not I wanted to date her.  MORE


10 Ways

To Grow

Your Cash Now

by Constance Borglow

May 15, 2018

Eight months ago, I had a financial breakdown.  I was in a store shopping for a new dress to wear to a friends’ birthday party, and when I went to pay for it, my credit card was declined.  It turned out that my card was maxed out, but to make matters worse, when I attempted to write a check, I realized that I did not have enough money in the bank to cover it.  The dress cost $109.00, and I had $47.00 in my account.   I was embarrassed when I had to put the dress back, and I felt even worse when I got home and realized that I had only $20.00 cash on me, and I had five days to go until payday.

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25 Ways To Be

Avoided Or

“Unfriended”

by E. Lamberto

  1. Always have a strong negative opinion ready to express unsolicited on whatever subject, name or event that comes up and be adamant about it.
  2. Make your envy of others apparent. Be sure to point out the negatives associated with whatever name has been mentioned in a positive light.  Example:  “She may be pretty, but I hear she’s on drugs.”
  3. Only call friends and family when you need a favor.

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Bad Boy

Training Tips

by Carla Santise

April 21, 2018

Speak Up…Speak Out…Speak Firmly. Too much can never be said on this subject. We must teach people how to treat us, especially those who have the potential to hold our hearts in their hands.    Example:  Donna met Doug at a conference.  Doug was handsome, cocky and a confirmed bachelor, who often bragged about never marrying. The romance bloomed fast with Doug in hot pursuit. But Doug had many bad habits that he had been carrying around carefully from relationship to relationship and for various reasons, had never been motivated to discard any of them.

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Hooked Up?

8 Things To

Do When It’s

Not Good…

by Jovan Tahale

April 16, 2018

  1. Speak out openly about what’s bothering you. State what it is you don’t like.  Stop accepting what you don’t like.  2. If you’re doing a lot of complaining and nothing changes, then you must change. Move away in active pursuit of happiness.  3. Remember, if you continue to settle for less than best, your partner will have no motivation to change. Don’t be afraid of a “time out.”  Sometimes being missed works wonders.  MORE

Women…On

Making The

First Move

The Good & The Bad

April 11, 2018

Cherrie – “I recently asked a guy at work to go with me to a friend’s new promotion party.  I liked him, but he didn’t seem to notice me.  I’ll never do it again, because I was uncomfortable all evening.  He knew I liked him, but he pretended he thought he was being invited under the banner of friendship.  All evening, he avoided my eyes and my getting to know you questions.  Before we left the party, he took another girl number right in front of me.  I’ll never do that again.MORE


Better Living

5 Life

Changing

Choices

by Constance Borglow

April 8, 2018

If you were to conduct an inventory of your life today, what would it reveal?  Are you stuck in a rut?  Broke?  Going through each day on “automatic pilot” without focus?  Overworked and undervalued?  Looking for love in all the wrong places?  If so, it’s undoubtedly the result of erring in these 5 make or break areas.  Think about this…MORE


4 Ways

To Make A

Good Impression

by Sue Fox

April 3, 2018

Looks Are Important

  • How you dress, groom yourself, and handle yourself in public are all part of your “packaging.”  Like a product, you can present yourself to be your most appealing, and you can present yourself differently according to the time and place.  For example, your appearance should differ depending on your geographic area – how you dress and act in Rocky Mountain National Park in Colorado, say, as opposed to Midtown Manhattan.   MORE

The “Foolery” Files

The Things We

Do For Love

by Coco Diong

March 23, 2018

The idea for this article came after I attended a pajama party for a sick friend.  There were over twenty women there, and as we sat around drinking champagne and swapping stories, we laughed at the ridiculousness of our past romantic wiles, and how foolish behavior would take charge when the notion of love slyly beckoned for us to follow it blindly. As we talked, I knew I had to document some of the exchange for a larger audience. The names have been changed for obvious reasons.  I will begin with me…MORE


Career

How To Get

Promoted

In 10 Weeks

by Cheryl Lakes

March 20, 2018

Last year, I started a new job with eagerness and readiness.  I was recently divorced and recuperating from financial ruin. In ten short weeks, I went from a clerk making $8.50 an hour to an administrative assistant making $17.50 an hour.  Here’s how I did it.  I…MORE


Single Stats

Our Latest Poll

Opinions & Doings

March 19, 2018

The Women Say…

85% – who have never married are against living with a guy before marriage.

27% – married before, prefer living together before marriage.

34 % – think men who have been married before make better husbands.

Specialty classes, the workplace and  wedding receptions are the best places to meet men.

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You!

Interesting

And Fun

To Be With?

You are if you have…

March 17, 2018

  • A sincere desire to please others. A faked, hypocritical interest in others, on the other hand, sounds sycophantic and insincere.
  • A good sense of humor. This quality is a saving grace in any conversation, and people who can laugh at themselves without putting themselves down are real winners.  MORE

A Status Report

Singles Are

More Powerful

Than Ever Before

March 14, 2018

According to a CNN report, in 2017, the Census Bureau reported that a record number of adults in the U.S. were not married. More than 110 million residents were divorced or widowed or had always been single; that’s more than 45 percent of all Americans aged 18 or older. And people who did marry were taking longer than ever to get there.   The median age of first marriage rose to 29.5 for men; for women, it reached 27.4. (These trends are likely to continue: A report from the Pew Research Center a few years ago predicted that by the time today’s young adults reach the age of 50, about one in four of them will have been single all their life.  .MORE


Faking It…

Do You

Wear A “Mask?”

by Cheryl Lakes

March 13, 2018

The world at large is filled with people who don a mask daily to disguise their true identities.  They usually strive hard to camouflage the real person for several reasons.  Fear, low self-esteem, deceit and insecurity are but a few.  What about you?  Do others usually see the real you, or the face you put on?  Do you know any of these people?

 

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Single…Living Alone?

5 Important Things To Know

by Coco Diong

March 9, 2018

There are millions of singles in this country who live alone, and many have no close ties to their neighbors or their families.  Studies show that out of those with close friendship ties, only 25% of their friends know who to reach in case of emergency.  MORE


10 Things

Your Place

Says About You…

by M.K. Allison

March 6, 2018

  • No plants in the home usually indicates that a person does not have a nurturing spirit.
  • Those with a outgoing spirit are usually ensconced in homes with bright colors, and lots of glass.

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The Male Room

What Makes

A Woman

Fascinating…

February 23, 2018

Jake – “Women who are smart, (a good combination of book sense and common sense) know that before she can be of worth to a man, she must be of worth to herself, and let it be known.  Guys are turned on by women who check them and are smart enough to do it with style and grace.”

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Rate Your

Relationship

Should You Be In Or Out?

by M.K. Allison

February 15, 2018

If your relationship is not satisfying and you are not where you really want to be, don’t be afraid to change the scenery.  Don’t hang on like this is the only man or woman in the world you could love.  It is not so.  Picture your current relationship.  Is it 70% of what you’d want it to be.  No relationship is 100%.  But it is reasonable for one to expect 2/3 of what is desired to be present when the heart is given free rein over the head.   Are you happy or complacent?  Is he/she meeting those needs that are necessary to your spiritual well-being?  Can you talk?  Does he listen?  Does she really care?   MORE


My Best

Valentine’s

Day Ever!

February 10, 2018

Susan:  “My boyfriend, who had suddenly stopped seeing me after five months of intense dating, called me on Valentine’s Day morning and asked me to have dinner with him that evening.  I had been so blue the night before and had spent the whole evening on the phone being comforted by my girlfriends.  I heard he was seeing someone else, and I was distraught at the thought of him being out with another woman.  However, I was transformed when I got his call, and was delighted when he told me at dinner, for the first time that he loved me and that he hadn’t realized it, until he stopped seeing me.  He gave me a beautiful friendship ring that night and proposed two months later.”  MORE


8 Guys

We Don’t

Date Long…

by Cheryl Lakes

February 6, 2018

Talker Tommy – Tommy is basically looking for a listener. He spends all your time together bragging, complaining and pushing his opinions. He does not hear or listen because he’s not really interested in your thoughts or views.  He is usually very attractive, (which can stimulate the interest factor for at least three dates) but a bore to be with.  Result: You know everything you need to know about him, and he knows nothing about you.  MORE

 


15 Smart

Ways To

Excel In The

Workplace

January 29, 2018

  1. If you don’t ask for it, it’s likely you won’t get it. This includes raises, guidance and whatever else you think you deserve.
  2. Always…always be ready to learn something new. Being susceptible to change puts your name in the pot for promotion.
  3. Don’t view your job as a social outlet where you get paid to play. Remember, that you were hired to do a job to help the company function well as a business.  MORE

If You Plan

To Marry

This Year

Read This First!!

by Lisa Cregier

January 24, 2018

When I married the first time, I was 31, but very immature.  I learned early that familiarity breeds contempt.  My husband and I had experienced a torrid love affair and marriage was intended to be the finishing touch to a perfect union.  However, it didn’t work out that way.  The adjustment of making my private life a shared affair was not totally what I expected.    MORE


OVERHEARD…

January 23, 2018

“I hate it when a guy asks if I have children as if he’s asking about my medical history.  Single mothers are among the highest discriminated against groups in America.  I have been dating off and on about three years now, since my divorce, and every man I meet seems only interested in a casual or temporary fling, because I have three children.  I know several women who don’t mention their kids until after the “magic dust” has settled. I’ll never forego my kids for a man’s affection and I feel sorry for women who do.”    MORE


Love Lives:

What To Do

When The

Heart Is Broken…

by M.K. Allison

January 15, 2018

So… it finally ended and you think life is so cruel, but time will teach you a valuable lesson.  For that same man or woman that you thought you couldn’t live without, will one day be a shadow of a memory.  Unfortunately, hurt and pain is a part of living that must be conquered each time it’s encountered.  So, stop feeling sorry for yourself and take a good look at the relationship.  Did it really have a chance?  Were the two of you really compatible?  Was it fulfilling for you as an individual?  Ask yourself these questions honestly and objectively and then write the answers down and while writing, make a note of the good times and the bad times and see which outweigh the other.    MORE


LOVE SKETCHES

Can It Get Too Serious…

Too Soon?

 by M.K Allison

December 28, 2017

Tracy had been hesitant at first to get involved with Dan, who had written separated on his job application, but she found his smile and manner to be irresistible.  During the interview, she caught him looking at her admiringly, and she was so taken by his good looks that she hired him without even checking his references.  Three months later, she moved in with him when her apartment building converted to condominiums.  She was convinced that her prayers had been finally answered, and they would marry soon.  He claimed his divorce was “just around the corner.”   MORE


Are You

Really Ready

For A Relationship?

Part II

by Nicco Micco

December 28, 2017

Step #4.  Get out a fresh sheet of paper and again divide it into three columns.  In the first section, list all of the disqualifying descriptions from the previous exercise.  Then, in the center column list the opposite, positive trait that you’d need from a long-term love.  Example:  Define the characteristic that you desire in a partner.  Maybe it’s “respectful of my feelings, perhaps it’s “altruistic and caring.”  MORE


16 Things

Smart

People Do…

by M.K. Allison

December 28, 2017

MEN:

  • Get rid of all the sweaters you own with roll collars.
  • If you send flowers to a romantic interest, make sure it’s roses.
  • Make it a point to do something that’s not altogether “Cool” but fun!
  • If you don’t know how already…learn how to swim.
  • Make sure your stomach does not distract from the real you!  If you have on a quality suit, it will fare better stylishly if you’re able to button the jacket  MORE

Are You

Really Ready

For A Relationship?

Part 1

by Nicco Micco

December 16, 2017

Step #1:  Grade your relationship readiness

You think you’re ready to settle in with someone for the long haul-but are you sure?  This exercise will help you figure it out.  For each statement, give yourself a check if you agree.

  • I’m done with “just fun;” I want to spend my time with someone I really connect with.
  • I’m in control of my life (that is, things are in order, I have no big issues distracting me, and I have time to devote to developing a good relationship). MORE

Your Best Life This Year

How Did You Do?

Your Lifestyle Report

by Jan Pitts

December 8, 2017

Take a look at this year and a close look at your journey.  Compare it to the year before.  Was it better or worse?  This is a great way to examine your life’s activity over the past eleven months and measure your progress and/or growth.  See what applies to you as you reflect over the year.  Hopefully, this will allow you the opportunity to evaluate what you need to do different (if anything) in the upcoming year.  Check out the points given next to each selection. Calculate your score and let us know how you add up. MORE


10 Things To Know

Before Your Next

Dinner Date…

by Lisa Laird

November 28, 2017

Recently, I went out to dinner with a new guy I met at a workshop. I must admit, I felt a bit intimidated because he seemed so urbane and well-traveled.  We went to a French restaurant, and when the waiter put the menu in my hand, I felt even more intimidated, because I couldn’t understand some of the language on the menu, and he seemed to be well-versed. MORE

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